Today I’d like to talk about relationships and how we tend to take our partner for granted or them us. Over the past few weeks, I have been faced with issues involving troubles in relationships. Patiently I would listen to the he said, she said…not knowing how to respond, without sounding condescending. But the one common denominator in most of the complaint’s, was the loss of one’s self. We try so hard to make a relationship work that we lose touch of who we are in the process. We try so hard to make our partner happy or try to avoid an argument that we forget or ignore our own needs. Eventually our friends and family begin to distance themselves from us, and we find ourselves alone outside of the person we are trying to please.
As selfish as it may sound, we need to make ourselves happy first before we can be any part of someone else’s life. If we look to others to bring us joy, then we are taking the risk of losing that joy if that person decides to find happiness elsewhere.
